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As the summer is winding down, I am hoping to be able to get back onto a regular writing newsletter schedule. I took some time off this summer to write my book which is now with the editor and can report it is beginning to shape up! I have great respect for authors having gone through this process. I learned quite a bit and now have a myopic vision for every word or sentence that doesn’t line up with proper grammar. With that said, back to my blogging.
The topic that I have been wrestling with myself is how do we love others effectively? How many of you find it difficult to love freely without any expectation in return? It might be family members that raise the hair on your chest and bring out the worse in you. Or it might be a partner that is angry and berating you which doesn’t meet your image of one whom you can respect. Or even a coworker who is difficult.
I once learned that loving others can be like horse trading. You may be giving to get something in return. Usually, we want others to respond back according to our need for something we need to have. That’s what makes it difficult because we may not get ANYTHING back—or it may not meet our image of what that love should look like.
Recently I am aware that I tend to struggle with loving without wanting a return for my effort. I wonder where my boundaries should be. Do I just give, give, give, not expecting anything? Am I a doormat leaving myself vulnerable to people taking advantage of me? I’m aware that I can’t give love from an empty well. If I am not filled up with love in my heart, how can I give away what I don’t have?
How do I get my well filled up? I believe the only one who can truly fill me up is God. When I can’t seem to turn on the love switch, He’s always there filling up my love tank. The scripture that reinforces this “His divine power has given us all things that pertain to life and godliness.” II Peter 1:3
There was a popular older book that I like to recommend that is called “The Dance of Anger by Harriet Goldhor Lerner. She discusses how one can be an over-functioner and they usually connect with those that are under-functioners. The one who is over-functioning can get angry because they never feel like they are getting anything back. Learning to be assertive to express your needs directly allows you to feel more empowered and can diffuse some of the anger that has built up by not speaking up. Also, pulling back some from all the ways you tend to over give can also aid in resolving some of the anger.
This summer I was introduced to a Biblically based EFT tapping method. Although it wasn’t a new tool for me to use on myself and others, I found Jim Richards site especially beneficial to train those on how to use this tool. Lately when I experienced an impasse in being able to resolve feeling guilty over not loving someone, I used this tool. I was amazed at how quickly the negative emotions dissipated. www.impactministries.com. Menu- Making the Journey/ Biblical EFT.
Tips on Filling up your Love Tank
- Fill up your love tank with lots of love for yourself- give yourself nurturing affirming self-talk. Ask for what you need from others rather than expecting them to read your minds.
- Practice EFT tool for letting go of self-condemnation- we can be quick to judge ourselves when we have failed to get the results we want. We may have made others unhappy by not giving them what they want from us. Unfortunately, people may be unhappy with us because they have an insatiable hole with them that can never be satisfied.
- Practice the presence of God to fill you up with His love. Spend time alone meditating on the true lover who is always available for us.
- Stop rescuing others from their distress. Focus more on loving them without doing for them things they can do for themselves. They don’t need a caretaker rather a lovable companion.
- Trust that you are given everything pertaining to life and godliness. You just need to trust that is there and ask for the fruit of the spirit at the time. The fruit of the Spirit is peace, love, patience, kindness, goodness, and self-control. Galatians 5: 22-23.
May you overflow with love from a full tank!
It looks like mother nature is finally replenishing our water supply. I was beginning to wonder if we would ever see rain or snow again. What I am aware of is how much we need cleansing of water in our own lives!
When we shed tears, it can be extremely healing. None of us likes to experience the releasing of a good boo hoo, but the after effect can be SO beneficial. Many times it can come as unresolved fears, hurt, or sadness which can let loose a layer of something we have held onto. Once this layer is peeled off, it can open up the gates for the potential for more positive feelings in our lives.
I have shared in my Ebook on self-sabotage that our body literally holds onto memories of past hurts and unresolved feelings. It is important to let go of these wounds so these feelings won’t ooze out or splatter onto others. I am firmly aware that these feelings get buried alive and want to show their ugly head from time to time at the least opportune times. If we keep pushing them away, they may show up as a monster that controls us and prevents us from moving forward.
If we see these emotions as simply energy in motion in our body, it can take the intensity away. Think of your body as an energy system. Like a television, you have current running through your body that creates the image on your selected program. If you took off the back cover of a television, poked around inside, and then replaced the cover, you would probably get a ZZZT when you turned on the television again. Suddenly, the electrical field that was tampered with doesn’t allow for a good flow of energy to come through to your television screen.
That is very much like your body that is affected when you hold onto emotions from either past or present. You can experience a block in your energetic system just like your television. When you allow them to move through you, they don’t have such a big hold on you. So, take note of a recent upset that you had. Where did you experience that in your body? Was it in your shoulders, arms, or gut?
I can think of a recent episode where I was experiencing quite a bit of emotional upset. My husband and I have been trying to get rid of a timeshare that he had purchased long before I married him. We have been able to benefit through the years with staying at top rated accommodations on trips. However, lately I have experienced not being able to get the places we want to go to due to too late or too early to book them.
We got a call to go to a presentation that would help us discover how to deal with this unavailability issue. That got my attention, since I had just recently tried to book something to see the fall foliage but was unable to get into anything. We went to a free dinner to hear about it. Upon hearing the presentation, we were told that they weren’t trying to sell us anything. So, my fears were settled down and I proceeded to listen to the presentation. As it went on, we found out that there had been a major lawsuit to the owners of the properties. We were now eligible for a way to once and for all get out of the ownership of the timeshare. That came as joy to my ears to finally no longer having to worry about passing this on to my relatives or paying a monthly maintenance fee.
What I wasn’t aware of, is that there would be a price tag to changing ownership to a new company, that would make trips so much more accessible to book. My gut suddenly started feeling so much pain and I was frozen in fear. Fear over spending money to get out of this fix. My husband, who is quite the financial man, decided it was a great deal. This is because it would in the long run afford us the travel opportunities that we wanted. I left the presentation signing off on a new travel agreement that I hadn’t intended to spend. It was so apparent to me of how emotions can impact the body. As I examined this further, it was helping me get in touch with all my fears around spending money that I took on from my parents.
Notice when you have been triggered by something recently and allow it to be an opportunity to clear out the emotions. It may lead you to an older upset that you never have dealt with. Allow yourself to breathe deeply and move through it so it is no longer is controlling you. I believe there is no accident for emotions you are being triggered by, as it may lead to a greater potential for those dreams and desires you have come to fruition.
Allow these old feelings to be cleared out as you clean out the emotional holds.
- Identify the emotion
- Let the emotion lead you to an original time when you impacted by that same emotion
- Notice where the emotion is in your body and breathe fully into it
- Notice how the emotion is moving quite well through you as you allow it to just come and go.
Here’s to your spring cleansing!
I went to the Breckenridge snow carving event last weekend. Boy was it cold! I had to really bundle up. It was quite interesting to see how all the international countries represented carved out their unique images in the snow. I have attached a blank block of snow which is what each representative starts with. It is interesting to see how their creative inspiration carves out an image that represents something they consider to be expressive of their country. Some of them required using my imagination a little.I thought it was a great analogy of transformational work. We all start with a blank slate in life, but through the years images are carved out in our soul. Many of these images are from memories that have deeply impact us. They may have left us with feelings of despair, emptiness, shame, and grief that continue to impact us today. When I looked at all of the snow carvings I could see the emotions represented through the eyes of the artist… some of them more beautiful than others, but all very expressive. What I would have loved to have seen was the artist actually carving out the images.
I know eventually the snow will melt and all the carved images will be dissolved and fade away. Just like in transformational work, we may have to face those frozen memories in time that are literally stored in crevices of our body. It is then, that we are able to fully release the hold they have on us.
That brings to mind the Walt Disney animated movie Frozen. Once Elsa realized that she had hung onto things she allowed herself to “let it go” as the song went. How many times have we frozen feelings in time and not allowing them to be let go of? We may hang onto them like a familiar shoe because we resist feeling the pain since it’s been comfortable like this for a long time. It may be comfortable, but it may not wear well over time. It most likely may be creating some of the problems you are encountering.
You may have a boss who repeatedly calls you on the carpet and it leaves you feeling defeated. You may feel you continue to want to please him and keep striving and striving and stressing yourself out. The constant striving can lead to all kinds of stress-related problems that keep you in a continual state of influx. Or you may have a marital partner who works all of time leaving you feeling like you are unimportant or abandoned. Our tendency is to make it about them, but that never allows us to heal from these trigger moments that are surfacing with these relationships.
If we go inside for guidance to show us what’s is ruling us we can begin to heal so it no longer rules us. I had a trigger moment recently with my husband who mentioned that I had spilt water in the bathroom that was making a puddle around the toilet. I immediately threw myself into an emotional outburst over this. When I realized how out of proportion this reaction was based on the situation, I found myself weeping and releasing a lot of tears. I began to realize the belief that had ruled me for some time that was causing me to feel this way. “I have to do things right” and when my husband made that statement, this belief raised its ugly head. Now as I look back on it, I think that this has been causing an abundant of unnecessary pain with me. I am learning to be more self-compassionate with myself—that I will at times do things wrong, but there is always a loving God who will embrace me. He’s not evaluating me based on rightness and wrongness, but I am fully accepted in His eyes.
- Think of time when you felt highly triggered by someone which felt blown out of proportion. What were you feeling? Ask yourself, “When have if felt this feeling before from the past?” You might have a memory come up or an experience you can trace it back to. This will help you get to the rooted emotion and belief pattern it’s attached to.
- Own the feeling and try not to make it about the person changing their behavior
- Allow yourself to move into the feeling or pain associated with it. It will eventually dissipate as you move through it much like a wave in an ocean that is hitting a seashore.
- Be self-compassionate and think more loving thoughts to yourself. Think of how you would talk to a friend or child. Are you speaking that way with yourself?
- Let go of all the self-defeating thoughts that are magnified in your mind.
- Come up with a new empowering belief that is supportive of you.
I hope this will help you on your journey to a more balanaced perspective to situations you encounter.
It’s that time of year again where I am reminded of gratitude as Thanksgiving approaches. We’ve often been told that if we just focus every day on what we are grateful for, it can turn around quickly our focus from “not enough” to “there’s an abundance or plenty”. I do believe gratitude can be a powerful exercise to turn around those negative thoughts that tend to go to what’s lacking. How many of you tend to look at the glass half empty? Do you naturally gravitate to what’s missing in a situation rather than see the good.
I know I do many times, but am learning to train my mind to see how every situation that God brings our way can bring something good into our life. It may not be neatly wrapped in the package that you expected, but down the road you can see the beauty of the package. It may have showed up with dingy wrapping paper, but later the wrapping started glistening with a whole new look. When we can see that good that usually comes later, we can really be in gratitude about what has happened to us.
I’ve heard many people describe the tragedies they have been through as the best thing that happened to them. That always surprises me as when you’re going through it, you don’t necessarily see the fruition or the value that’s there. But many times our control and ways of comfort have been disrupted so it can be extremely difficult to see the good. I read a book recently that was titled “Heart Made Whole: Turning Your Unhealed Pain into Your Greatest Strength. ” by Christa Black Gifford. The author was not only a brilliant writer, but she had a lot of depth in being able to see the value of going through the pain—going to the inner depths of your heart wounds to only come out to the other side strengthened. I would highly recommend her book.
Where does the strength come from? Is it the fortitude you had to muster up to get you through it. I don’t believe that’s it. I believe its entering into a space where there is darkness and seeing that by going through it, we can come out to the other side and see the light. The light is there I believe from a God who loves us regardless, who takes us by your right hand and walks us through the difficulties, and loves us in the midst of our pain. As we come out of the world of darkness into the light, we can begin to see what growth has come through and be so grateful that we were not alone. There was a guiding light taking us through the journey.
That I believe speaks to the real gratitude. It’s not just empty words recited each day out of obligation. Its more about receiving the value that is in all situations. A coach friend of mine once said “there is a gift in everything.” I believe that is so true, but we need to see it. Many times it has come disguised in that dingy paper and ropey ribbon. We can choose to let it bind us up and stay in resentments or allow the good to be revealed.
Make this Thanksgiving truly a time of shifting your perspective to what’s missing in your difficulties, to seeing there is something glistening behind the horizon. We just need to be open to waiting, trusting, and knowing that it will come as we trust in the process.
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I took a little break from writing and I am writing this on April 1st . I am not big on pranks and instead I will tell you what I have been learning from my painting class. I have been agonizing with feelings of discouragement that I can’t keep up with more talented classmates. There is quite a tendency to compare when you see others’ paintings that you perceive as out shining yours.
But what is so amazing is there are no two paintings alike! Everyone has their own talent of laying down colors and painting the scenes unique to their eye. What that continually illustrates to me is that everyone has a particular image of what they want to illustrate on their palette. It is their image coming from their own expression. What I am always amazed by is there are no two paintings alike. There is usually something beautiful in every ones’ painting.
How many times in life do we perceive something a certain way and our spouse or sibling sees it totally different. We all have our filters and sometimes that can be colored by memories and happenings from our past. We may see it through a lens that says there is danger, so we perceive things without much hope or possibilities toward good coming our way. Or we may see things as unsafe and feel like we have to be suspicious and on guard all of the time. These faulty perceptions can really trip us up and create unwanted behavior.
We may feel like we are on a perpetual hamster wheel with feeling stuck in ever being able to change. What I am learning in my class is growing from my mistakes. It seems that many times in life we learn how to improve by doing things wrong the first time. We may learn to develop new perceptions of things when we experience the first way that didn’t work. Then we find a new way by shifting our thinking to come up with a new perspective.
I like to apply these lessons I am learning in painting to life.
Lesson #1 – Don’t give up when something doesn’t turn out well. Just develop a new strategy!
Lesson #2 – If your image of what you wanted doesn’t pan out, find a new way to perceive it.
Lesson #3 – Try to not compare as you can see the beauty in everything created- every person, every job well done, and every athletic feat. Look for it.. and you will find it!
I leave you with this as you head into spring. Soon, the snow will be leaving us and little buds will be appearing with new signs that spring is around the corner. Be gentle with yourself and allow any rebirth to be bursting forth in this turn of the season!
Suzanne Simpson, The Emotional Liberator
How many times do we make up stories in our mind about what happens to us? John is upset with me at work because he ignored me today walking down the hall. Could it be that John was walking out of a difficult meeting with his boss and didn’t look at me because he was preoccupied with something that went on in the meeting? or My husband was angry at something that happened to me and came home from work very quiet. I interpreted that he was mad at me because the house was a mess and dinner wasn’t on the table. How many times do we falsely perceive someones’ intention toward us when we have no understanding of what they are really are thinking or feeling?
Many of us are seeking other’s approval and define our feelings of being ok by responses we get from others. This tends to create a lot of mental gyrations that limit our ability to feel good at any given moment. We spend time worrying why so and so didn’t call us back or why we didn’t get that promotion when there could be a number of reasons why. Usually after I have made some assumption I later find out I was dead wrong. What I had assumed was not at all what they were thinking about me.
In the book the Four Agreements by Don Miquel Ruiz he discussed 4 ways that we make agreements with ourselves.
Agreement 1 – Be Impeccable with Your Word: We can make ourselves miserable through the spoken word. We either speak negative thoughts toward ourselves or we speak out hurtful emotions toward others. The scriptures teach: “ Life and death is in the power of the tongue and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Many times we may use the word to spread personal poison—to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate rather than love and acceptance.
We may have grown up hearing words spoken to us that greatly affected our self-image like ” You are stupid, or you aren’t attractive.” These words were deeply implanted in your mindset and can continue to be lived out as if they were true. One of the things I was told by my Dad when I was a young adolescent was I was really going to have trouble with men because I talked back to my Dad. I learned from this that I couldn’t have a voice and started shutting down from really voicing any of my needs. I learned to stuff things inside and not be assertive and share my opinion. Having a voice and being open with your feelings in constructive ways is so important.
Agreement 2 – Don’t Take Things Personally– Taking things personally can be the the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption it is about “me”. As shared above, we react to how someone looks at us or responds to and we take it personally rather than just realize they may be having a bad day and it is not about us at all.
Agreement 3 Don’t Make Assumptions– It is the meaning or story that we attach to things that makes us feel bad. Most of the times, the assumptions are false and just something we have conceived in our mind. What I am aware of is that I tend to do is imagine the worst possible scenario that will happen in the future. I know that the biggest challenge I face is to stay in the present with not making assumptions about things that may never happen.
Agree To Always Do Your Best– If you always do your best, you can walk away from any situation or circumstance without self-judgments. Self-judgments are what really get us in trouble and into self-condemnation. Practicing these 4 agreements has changed my life. The one I had the hardest time with is believing that I had done my best. I used to self-evaluate myself after I did things. I place a judgment on whether I did things wrong or right according to my standards. I was such a harsh critic that I couldn’t let up on myself.
This is a time of year when things start getting stressful as we head into a busy year. Working with these inner agreements can be so valuable and being able to feel much more confident and peaceful. Start by practicing these every day!
Written by Suzanne B Simpson, The Emotional Liberator
Are you feeling depleted and let down from too much doing and giving to others and wondering how do I get revived? You may find yourselves immediately coming up with solutions. I can start a vigorous exercise and weight loss plan.. or I can come up with some new exciting goals for my business that will energize me. Or maybe I set out to attract a new exciting relationship that will help me feel loved and accepted.
These are great intentions as we walk into the New Year, however if we are too drained to muster up the energy to even get these things going, we may find ourselves unmotivated and procrastinate to see any of these new intentions manifested in our life.
Over the last year I have worked with people from all different backgrounds and ages and they all seem to have consistent patterns of overdoing and giving that leave them feeling depleted and not living a fulfilled life. They may struggle with addictions, work challenges, or unhealthy relationship patterns that hold them back.
Somehow they bought into the idea that by giving more and working harder to become successful, we would feel loved and accepted and people wouldn’t reject us. I love the research Brene Brown has done on shame where she shares that what we do to feel accepted is try to be perfect enough so others will approve of us. This can throw us into a constant state of overdrive of do, do, do… until one day we wake up wondering why our passion has waned and dwindled into the what I call the “no reserve syndrome”. Anger many times can set in and keep us in a perpetual state of depression.
About four years ago I left my coaching work I was doing with Anthony Robbins because much of what we were doing with people was helping them muster up the emotional state they wanted to feel at any given moment so they could accomplish the goals they had for themselves. What I learned over and over was people would self-sabotage because they needed to empty out the subconscious emotions first rather than try to just create positive emotions. It seemed like they were just putting band aids on things and eventually they would feel defeated when they weren’t able to move forward.
I have since been an avid student of learning cutting edge methods of uncovering the subconscious thoughts that restrict people from emotional freedom. I am thankful for the tools that I have been able to put in my therapist tool bank so people can literally unleash themselves from much of the depression and painful losses that hold them back.
Tips for uplifting yourself:
- Start living in balance by finding ways to give to yourself.
- Identify what rooted emotions are driving your desire to give so much.
- Make friends with anger and not allowing it to be pushed down.
- Expressing and feeling your emotions so they can be released.
- Renewing your mindset with new empowering beliefs.
- Create more of a reserve for yourself of time, energy, and love in your life.
Have a healthy and prosperous mindset for the New Year!
After being on the airline on a trip suddenly I realized I wasn’t hearing well in my left ear. I went for a week or so feeling like one ear was plugged up until I could get to a doctor and find out the cause. I tried multiple home remedies but nothing seemed to work. I was pretty sure it was a wax build up, but until I knew I imagined what it would be like going without being able to hear. It was quite challenging not being able to comprehend things that people were telling me and feeling rather stupid. It really made me so much aware of how much I depend on my hearing. Finally I got in to a doctor and they did that inner irrigation of the wax and voila my hearing returned. I was so relieved!
Being the therapist that I am, I always look for the growth in all of these experiences I go through. What I was aware of is when I tuned out a lot of the sounds from the external world …. conversations about what people think of me… and feeling like I was somewhat intelligent in my conversing with others, I was more aware of hearing what my internal world was communicating. It was an interesting opportunity to listen to those inner feelings, impressions, and not be so drawn to the physical needs to win others approval or be so outwardly focused on performing well.
I do believe there is a gift in everything we experience. I feel like many times we don’t tune into those inner feelings, voices, and guidance that is available to us. It takes quieting our mind and being able to slow down and listen. What I find many times with people is their analytical mind kicks in and they hear from their head with all the “shoulds” rather than what is in their heart of hearts. Usually the messages are more spontaneous than having to try to figure them out and wrestle with what you are hearing.
Don’t get me wrong sometimes when we are making a decisions we have to evaluate the pros and cons and determine what is best which does require a little of our analytical thinking. But many of the times over thinking gets in our way and creates a blockage to our connecting to our emotions and intuitive guidance.I was able to release the feelings and pain I was experiencing over feeling so incoherent. Suddenly a new level of peace has come over me and I am feeling freedom to listen better to those inner feelings and move through them when they come up.
I encourage you to try during this holiday season to listen better, slow down, and hear what you really think you need rather than just reacting to all the “shoulds” that come up in our minds. Many times the “shoulds” condemn us and tell us we haven’t done enough. We haven’t pleased enough relatives, or done enough of the right gift giving. I can remember my mother walking away from Christmas gift giving feeling so discouraged because she hadn’t pleased us enough with what she had given. The reality is you won’t be able to please everyone so let go of that expectation and you will be a lot happier.
Here’s to better hearing and listening to our inner world!
It seems that everything in life is based on learning how to improve the next time when we don’t do things right the first time around. For a perfectionist like myself I typically would love to do things right without having to learn from my mistakes. However my experience in life has shown me that this is typically not what happens for me. It seems that I have to learn first from the mistakes I make and then improve the next time around.
I started taking watercolor classes several years ago which has been very fulfilling and brought a much needed balance into my life. However, it’s not come without challenges. I remember the first time we used masking fluid I accidentally spilled the bottle over some of my clothing and purse. It was an absolute mess to clean up and I learned you tread carefully when handling that masking fluid!
The biggest lesson I’ve learned is to learn from my mistakes when trying to do new things. Each time I tend to improve the next time around. It seems that everything in life has a learning curve. When you have botched up a painting, you need to pick yourself up and learn from it. If you don’t learn from it, it might continue to show up again. Practicing a little self-compassion goes a long way toward ridding yourself of the negative self-talk that tends to control you when you fail at something. Learning to be self-compassionate with ourselves is not something that typically is easy to practice. Our mind tends to be consumed with negative voices that leave us very discouraged and frustrated with ourselves.
I discovered someone online who has a research site where she helps people assess the level of self-compassion they have for themselves. It is Dr. Kristen Neff at http://self-compassion.org. You can take the assessment and see the meditations and exercises she has on learning to be compassionate with yourself. I believe they are extremely practical and helpful.
Many of you who have had children can think of how you would talk with your child. Do you give those same encouragements to yourself? I have thought about that many times that the ways we talk or nurture a child doesn’t get translated to us. We can be our worst critics. Begin to turn your negative statements into loving and compassionate ones.
I like the heart warming exercise that I put together on a CD which titled “Open our Heart to More Loving”. By allowing those positive feelings of love and appreciation to come in you can feel so soothed and ready for any battle of the mind. So when you are struggling with a particular thing that is troubling you, you can begin to open up your heart to giving yourself loving statements of kindness and compassion. Tell yourself, “This is a moment of suffering. Suffering is real.” Respond by asking what do I need to give to myself that is loving. What do I need to hear right now?
It can be a gift you give compassion to yourself!
Fall is the time of year where the colors are so brilliant and the weather is changing here in Colorado. It’s a time when leaves are falling and we are going into the dormant season where the growth isn’t happening and we are preparing for winter to set in. What the leaves represent I feel is a time of shedding off the old and allowing the dormant time of winter to prepare you for new growth in the spring.
What are you wanting to shed off?. is it some grief over a loss of marriage, or family member that never got dealt with and keeps lingering? Is it the loss of a career that brought an unexpectant change and you were left wondering where your work is headed? Or are you going through a loss of a health, or a dream that has left you without hope.
You don’t want to allow it to continue to stagnate your energy holding onto these feelings. Research shows that unresolved grief will be harder to assess if it is prolonged. What people typically do is get busy and push aside those feelings thinking maybe they will go away if they don’t think about them. A lack of knowledge and accompanying inability to grieve and complete unfinished emotions leads to a build-up of emotional “crud” around the human heart. This almost automatically tends to cause us to limit or restrict the kind of interactions that require an open, loving, receptive heart. We may find ourselves not open to attracting new relationships because we never want to experience any loss again.
This can be equated to the oil filter in our car. When we don’t change the filter or oil on a regular basis it gets clogged up and unable to release the buildup. We can keep emotions at bay so that the cleansing that should be happening in our hearts doesn’t get released. If this process happens effectively it will release whatever may be clogging up the system and enable your heart to be open again. So we can change the filter now or suffer from engine failure in the future.
Changing the filter can also be equated to the way we were left perceiving the events that happened to us. We may see our loss through a filter that devastates us and leaves us void of wanting to move on. Or it might have left us resentful at God about why it happened. We may also form an identity around the pain that continually fuels us and keeps us in a victim mode.
The best remedy for grief is to take action to start the process. I encourage those to engage in the feelings and go through the necessary stages that are preventing them from letting go of the emotions. They might have also held onto beliefs that formed a colored lense that they now see their life through. In addition, taking action to move into a new vision or purpose will be another way to set the wheels in motion.
You owe it to yourself to release whatever you are holding onto so you can move into a renewed vision for your life.
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